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Crippled CEO Blog #044: Fish Love

Crippled CEO Blog #044:

“Why are you eating that fish?” 

“Because I love fish!”

“You love fish. That is why you pulled it out of the ocean, killed it, filleted it, and ate it. You don’t love the fish. You love what it can do for you. You love yourself.“

The man meets a woman and she’s perfect. She is beautiful. She is kind. She is funny. And after some time, he decides that he loves her. She fulfills his physical and emotional needs. She makes him so happy. He loves her. And she feels the same way.

This is the same as the fish. This is, as Abraham Twerski calls it, Fish Love. 

He doesn’t love her. He loves himself. And he loves the way that she improves his life. He loves the enjoyment, gratification, and laughter she provides. 

Real love isn’t receiving and liking it. There’s no love in that. That’s just run-of-the-mill selfishness. It’s Fish Love. 

Real love is giving. Real love is when we take away from ourselves for somebody else.

There’s an important nuance to this, though.

Our instinct is to think that we give to the people we love. But that’s not entirely true.

We love the people to whom we give. Giving to somebody is investing part of us into them. And, as we know, we love ourselves. So, when we invest ourself into somebody else, when we invest our time, our resources, our energy, and so on, when that other person is imbued with this part of us that we love, now we can love this part of us that’s in them. 

My friends know that generosity is a way of life for me. At my funeral, I want people to remember me as someone who always gave with abundance. But this lifestyle of generosity has also allowed me to care about people in a much more authentic way. 

Don’t confuse real love with Fish Love. Real love is giving. Fish Love is receiving. 

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